Still, throughout the book, Regnerus takes this theory pretty far.He sounds a bit like your proverbial grandma cautioning that a man will never buy the cow if he’s getting the milk for free.like: “She wishes to be a free rider—in this case, to find a good man—without contributing to the kinds of normative relationship behavior that make men better. It can’t work.”He goes on: “In the domain of sex and relationships men will act as nobly as women collectively demand.Contraception makes sex less risky; online dating platforms make it more accessible.
The next day, the famous author wrote a letter to Peter Bide, the priest who had married them, to tell him the news.“I’d like to meet,” Lewis writes, suggesting the two grab lunch sometime soon. One doesn’t realize in early life that the price of freedom is loneliness.
In order to get it, men bring to the table resources, commitment, and fidelity.
In previous eras, this exchange was effective at producing marriages (though it also went hand-in-hand with strict sexual mores and women’s subjugation).
Many women don’t need what resources men have to offer, anyway; they have their own.
But men have more power in the mating market in this model, which leads to women also embracing, or at least going along with, cheap sex and some of the rude behavior that comes with it.