I didn't think of messaging him afterwards but I was curious because no one has ever approached me in that manner... But, I was walking past him and took a glimpse- he had one crutch (by his right side). But the way he walked was quite strange and he was limping. I feel like physically disabled people might be a bit sensitive when it comes to break-ups because to them, just finding one person to accept them is difficult.So I searched it up- turns out its mild cerebral palsy. (well he didn't need to but would be nice to know). And I'm thinking- if this guy is not suited for me I might just befriend him or break up with him.For our first assignment—a personal essay on a humiliating moment—I wrote about how my disability impacted my dating life. The comments were encouraging and supportive and the paycheck was appreciated—but I wasn’t sure how to handle it. Later, in my second semester of a journalism master’s program at New York University, a (different) professor required us to blog on a topic of our choosing. I heard it again: “Your disability is the most interesting thing about you.” I took a deep breath and gave myself a gut-check. Was there a legitimate space in the overcrowded blogosphere for disability-centric stories?The class workshopped a draft of my piece and I showed it to the editors at my internship, who liked what they saw. The pride I felt from having reached people with my story was matched by my embarrassment when the piece became the top hit on a Google search of my name. My professor loved the idea of a blog focused on disability issues, but I was embarrassed and nervous.But most of all, I didn’t want to feel like I was selling myself out.Instead, I enrolled in an Ameri Corps program and spent about a year traveling the country constructing homes and working on environmental projects.I threw out other possibilities: animals, satire, fashion (though my beat-up sneakers and ill-fitting jeans weren’t helping me sell that pitch).“Carly, stop,” she said, slapping her desk for emphasis. Just do it.” I nodded and left, trying to stay calm. Maybe some massive computer virus would take out the entire Internet. I was surprised at how many ways there were to write about one subject—individual profiles, hard news stories about legal developments, travel tips, and, yes, personal essays.
Disabled people are usually portrayed in the media as shining beacons of inspiration or as depressed outsiders who yearn for acceptance or, better yet, a cure.Should you just forget about it, move on and remain single for the rest of your life? You get yourself together, create a goal and follow your dreams, no matter what people say or the self-doubt in your mind. Lying about these things will only hurt you in the end.I would be lying to you if I said dating is easy when you have a disability. By knowing your genuine self and personality, you are more out to find someone who is right for you. You can’t expect a partner to make you happy and maintain your happiness.Truthfully, disabled people are just as complex as their able-bodied counterparts, and they have nuanced stories I’ve enjoyed getting the chance to tell—first on my blog and then as a freelancer for a number of different publications.Although I’ve penned plenty of stories unrelated to CP, I sometimes worry about becoming a one-note writer.