Dating used to be a slow process that involved various levels of interaction – courtship, the uncommitted stage, the commitment stage – but has been simplified to the artless act of swiping either left or right on one’s i Phone.
But how do you go about discussing HIV and other sexually transmitted infections (STIs) via dating apps without putting a damper on a hot and heavy conversation?
Josh Robbins of an HIV-positive, 32-year-old activist and social media brand agent, suggests that you “go with the flow of the conversation” and try to control the narrative “specifically by asking open-ended questions that you want to know” the answers to.
At the end of the day, the most important thing to remember when navigating these topics is honesty, clarity and trust.
If you don’t feel comfortable discussing these topics online, then put it on hold till you’re in-person — but don’t avoid the conversation entirely.
Valentine details that she never asks men about their STI or HIV status online because she thinks that they’ll assume that she wants to “have sex with them.” “I always ask in person though if it is gonna go down,” she adds.