How boring would it be if both people are planners?You might find yourself so overly planned that all joy is lost in experiencing the moment.Perhaps they foolishly believe, “I can change this person” and then they get frustrated when they are not able to do so.Suddenly the “cute” trait becomes a monster issue within their marriage!
What about compatibility around hobbies or activities? I believe that in the short-term, couples can survive despite not having any mutual interests but longer-term, this can lead to problems.Does the saying, “the couple who plays together, stays together” hold true? If both people are gone every night of the week and every weekend pursuing their own interests, they begin to drift apart. Before you know it, they are vacationing on their own (he’s golfing at Hilton Head, while she is at the Bead Show in Asheville).I’m not saying that every couple needs to share the exact same hobbies. I spoke with a woman last week who has been married for 42 years … To say they each lead busy, active lives would be an understatement.Perhaps even for people who did join an app as single-and-ready-to-mingle, seeing the plethora of options on swipes and the mighty levels of power that come with literally swiping someone aside if they don’t fit your brief, it has stopped people meeting someone they otherwise might give a chance if they met in person.River describes the “ease of the swipe” as sometimes being a hindrance to actually deciding on someone to meet up with.