Online dating the rules

With time, a no-strings hookup could turn into something more.

“A week later, maybe you’d be like, ‘I should reach out.’” Gone are the days when dates had to be an elaborate night out at a buzzy restaurant or club.

“You have to be really clear on what you want,” says Lindsay Chrisler, a professional dating coach based in Hell’s Kitchen. “Everything goes down over text now, especially between millennials,” Manley says.

While some might lament the loss of anonymity, Manley adds that this isn’t always such a bad thing.

“Sometimes guys are afraid, too.” And with the advent of dating apps such as Bumble, which require women to make the first move to avoid online harassment, it’s not only common for women to initiate a date, it’s increasingly expected.

“There are definitely guys who would be really into a woman taking charge like that,” says Manley.

A new study found that millennials are 48 percent more likely than those of other generations to have sex before a first date to see if there’s a genuine attraction.

“If there’s not an immediate spark, you’re wasting both of your time,” says Manley.