“She has 12 to 15 guys all commenting on her posts and looking to get with her but she’s only interested in the attention.She’s told me plainly that she’s not interested in meeting anybody, she just wants to feel like people want her every now and then.” Jennifer Worick, author of “The Worst-Case Scenario Survival Handbook: Dating & Sex,” says people do have different agendas when it comes to dating.“It’s the online equivalent of ‘going out for cigarettes,’ ” says one seasoned single.Now, there’s a new online annoyance — the person who doesn’t want to meet but is all too happy to e-mail, text, tweet, IM, or scrawl on your Facebook wall indefinitely.In 2007, Elaine La Personerie, a 33-year-old PR maven from Manhattan, answered a Craigslist ad that kicked off an intense year-long elationship.“At first, he made all kinds of excuses for not meeting,” she says.Although he told her he lived in New York City and would often reference weather or traffic problems as excuses why he couldn’t connect (“He’d call and say, ‘It’s raining so bad, I can’t get a taxi, things that were relevant to where I was”), he actually lived in London.La Personerie also discovered that an “ex-fiance” he frequently mentioned was actually another online girlfriend who, just like her, had never laid eyes on the guy.
“One woman was always popping up on chat programs — ‘What are you doing? ’ This went on for a month and then I proposed we meet. Giorgi says he thinks some singles just like to collect “cyber-harems.” “I have a friend who’s on a dating site and I can see that a lot of the people from the site have started following her on Facebook,” he says. There's the woman with the profile photo from 1992.There's the Don Juan who says he's single, but isn't.“The first date it was the stomach flu and then it was everything from a missed flight to a last-minute meeting to his uncle dying to getting lost to falling asleep.” La Personerie says she knew something was hinky within three weeks, but became intrigued — both with the guy (there was a definite click when they talked on the phone) and with his elusive nature.“We only corresponded via phone or IM or whatever, but he really knew who I was,” she says.