Also, if I don’t follow my religion to the book, why should I have to marry someone from it?
It should be about someone’s personality and the chemistry you have with them.
Now, I admit I am not particularly strict, (especially as I eat meat and drink alcohol) but I do follow a lot of the traditions upheld with Sikhism. Not just the pressure of dating, but the pressure to date someone who is the same religion and caste as you.
In the world of a British Indian we are closed books when it comes to dating.
Unless we are ready to take the next step of marriage, we usually have to be discreet about our relationships, due to the pressures that will come from our elders.
In Indian culture we do have a hierarchal caste system, which is still prominent to this day, and while it’s true that there are Indian families who adopt a modern view on dating, my family fall into the old school category …which is where, for me, modern dating gets complicated.
As my parents adopt this old school mentality, they want me to find a girl not only in the same religion but also from the same caste.