[Have your child sign i MOM’s Cell Phone Contract.] 3. So, get the door for her, look me in the eye when you talk to me, and please don’t let your britches fall down so low that I have to look at your underwear band. Sure my daughter is fun, but she’s also a student, and in our house, school comes before fun. No, I won’t hide in the backseat or stalk you when you’re with my daughter, but she and I have an agreement that she checks in often with home, and lets me know where she is and where she’s going. Believe me, good manners will help you get on her good side, and mine too. That means she won’t be going with you to the mall, the movies or out to dinner on a school night. Also, secret meetings and clandestine adventures will be discovered—I have my ways! so why won’t my husband do anything, when his brother or nephews talk vulgar and disrespectful in my presence, and TO me at times … and my husband KNOWS this bothers me, offends me and I’m just not the type to think it’s funny??? It takes time, sweat, and even tears but the I love you mommy and the hugs and kisses, well those are the most important thing in the world to me. The house isn’t perfect – there are dishes in the sink and my bed needs to be made – but oh well. Reply I’ll join with the others in “live in the now.” Too often, we think about our kids at work, and work when we’re with our kids. Balancing our needs vs our individual kids’ needs vs the family needs. You can’t change your past and your future may not turn out like you planned. Reply I know this has nothing to do with the present subject, and I apologize for posting a question on an old topic, BUT: Back when you were talking about ‘men feeling empathy’, somebody here mentioned that men are wired to: Protect their land and family OK … Time in general is a fleeting thing and our children grow up so fast, and it is hard when you are the sole parent and working hard to provide for your kids, but if you hold onto those tender, funny, loving moments you realize how it is all worth it. Reply– Look after you…if you don’t who will…and a happy mommie makes for a better mommie.– Always follow what’s in your heart as long as your heart an your head agree– Never settle for less than the best..after all you deserve it.– Forgive yourself the little things and make friends with yourself.Just like your challenges were yours alone growing up (and now!
I want to make a list of the top 10 rules a single mother should live by. I joined Plenty of Fish – all for you (and kind of for me too)! So far quite freaky but there are some interesting prospects. One – When things seem tough or unfair, I tell myself it could always be worse! (That doesn’t mean you can’t have a little fun while you’re waiting.)Reply The first few are great! Being a single mother means you carry responsibilities that most single women don’t. That doesn’t mean that you can’t do these things you just have to plan, state your goal and work towards it. And your kids will be just fine unless you act like your family dynamic isn’t fine. Well that’s just icing.2) Show them examples of loving adult relationships. So the house isn’t clean and your preschooler wants to wear an orange shirt with purple pants. I struggle with this one, because there is part of me who really wants to picture my future 10 yrs from now. Even if the only thing is the fact that you laughed with your kids. At the same time, don’t be afraid to make the tough decisions for your family. If you want to date our daughter, we will try to figure out what kind of boy you are, before you spend time with her.One more thing, she does not take her phone to bed with her. But if you want to spend time with my girl, I will insist that you treat her like a lady.My most important rule: realize that even the most well thought out rules may need to change and evolve over time as the needs of your family change (daycare arrangements, work schedule, visitation schedule, a move, the list is endless).Expecting this to occur will make the chaos that sneaks up from time to time more tolerable.