Many people have asked me what it’s like being an American woman married to an Arab man.
Some even ‘warned’ me before making the decision to get married.
For a woman to shed a tear and a man be the cause is shameful. Large family gatherings happened once a year during family reunion time and even that came to an abrupt halt when my grandparents died.
Fortunately my husband does fit comfortably into this part of the culture he appears to have left so far behind. The typical Southern Belle raised as an only child in America. I never had to share anything with anyone — even my space.
In his culture men have an obligation to truly take care of their wives.
He’s responsible for all the bills and monthly obligations while providing me anything I want without hesitation — even if it means he goes without. My opinion matters and he always asks what I think or how I feel.
But he also embraces the more positive things about the bedoin culture, such as how women should be treated.
Unfortunately there are a lot of misconceptions about how bedoin men treat their wives, and until you’re married to one, I suggest you don’t assume.
I’m never left out of family events and they even go out of their way to embrace things from my culture.Having a husband like this has taught me to want very little as it’s far more important to me that he lives a stress free life and never goes without anything. I don’t have to ask his ‘permission’ to do anything, nor does he ask mine.But out of respect for one another we ensure the other is always comfortable.If he knew something bothered me or caused me pain, he wouldn’t do it, that simple.In the bedoin culture men are often viewed as superior to women (by outsiders), but it’s not that way.