I was extremely hesitant about it at first, but I realized that [it] wasn't easy for her [to tell me], and I tried to be open-minded.
Man B: I believe my partner's body is her own, so intellectually I had and have no problem with it.
Man B: I'm curious and have often asked her questions about it.
She's happy to talk, and it's been interesting to learn both her experience and perspective, as well as stories of the clientele and club. The stories aren't what you would expect — she won't sit there and talk to me about how she gave someone a dance, it's more like, "I was sitting and talking to this regular, and here is what kind of crazy stories he told me." I love hearing about the stories she has.
Man A: We were set up by close mutual friends of ours and we were together for close to eight months.
When I met her, she had previously been a cam model for a while, and then she started dancing after we were together for a few months. One night about a month into dating, she asked — I thought hypothetically — how I'd react if she were a stripper.
There is just some kind of allure and taboo that makes it exciting — I mean, you are literally dating someone whose job is to be sexy and alluring.
However, I was incredibly insecure about it for a very long time.
Prior to her, I had had a fairly conventional monogamous relationship history, and so this was really, really new to me.
Man A: I didn't know she was a stripper when we got together but I found out about two weeks after when she decided to be honest with me. I believe I responded that I wouldn't care too much.
I asked her, jokingly, if she was and she didn't say no. I don't remember her next response, but we changed topics fairly quickly and didn't touch it again that night.
We are close and I'm like a best friend to her, so when she was considering becoming a dancer, she told me.
Man A: I was in a bit of a denial stage for a few moments, but then she got worried that I would break up with her because of it — I saw the worry in her eyes and took it seriously.