Know that if you are someone who treats people with respect and integrity then the ghoster simply wasn’t on your wavelength and someone better is coming your way, as long as you keep your heart open and your focus forward. You were available, if he'd come to you with his concerns. I have a good friend who recently experienced ghosting.References Think Forward to Thrive: How to Use the Mind’s Power of Anticipation to Transcend Your Past and Transform Your Life. I've seen a friend committed to marriage, suddenly get divorced, switch to lesbian (who looks like her ex-husband), and drop all her closest friends. She really thought she had great connection and he just disappeared after several months of dating.I hate to see her this way as shes more hurt by the ghosting than anything else, and I feel powerless to help her.No matter how much I tell her about her great qualities, she remains deeply saddened that the guy disappeared.But when they appear not to even value you enough to have a conversation when they clearly know the great pain that will cause is traumatic.However, maybe it will help your friend and others to remember there are a limited set of reasons someone ends a relationship via ghosting: cowardice, selfishness, immaturity, a pathological disorder, or just plain evil.In any case they have sent you an extremely loud message that says: I don’t have what it takes to have a mature healthy relationship with you.
Ghosting, for those of you who haven’t yet experienced it, is having someone that you believe cares about you, whether it be a friend or someone you are dating, disappear from contact without any explanation at all. Ghosting isn’t new—people have long done disappearing acts—but years ago this kind of behavior was considered limited to a certain type of scoundrel.Since you don't have friends in common or weren't introduced through some other channel, it's not the end of the world if you just drop off the face of the earth.” “I, for one, consider myself to be an honest and straightforward person. And I’ve told myself, time and time again, that it’s all the fault of the toxic dating culture we’ve created. What if they are hurt and lying in a hospital bed somewhere? Maybe they are just a little busy and will be calling you at any moment.And at the end of the day, I think that’s what we’re all telling ourselves.” How does it feel to be ghosted? You move on, but not before your self-esteem takes a hit. You don’t know how to react because you don’t really know what has happened.Don’t allow someone else’s bad behavior to rob you of a better future by losing your vulnerability and shutting yourself off from another relationship.Keep your energy focused on doing what makes you happy.